He wanted to know the number of men she had slept with. She's not a child and has clearly seen a bed or two. She's not an easy woman, but if she liked a guy, she slept with him. Well, if you do that over 20 years, you can start to imagine the numbers. I happen to think she's typical and well within the norm. Let's say that from the ages of 20 to 40, she slept with an average of 3 men per year. I don't think this is a high number. However, when you multiply 20 years times 3 men, you get 60 men!

This is the typical guy's thinking. Yet, I can assure you that we don't want a virgin either. Does this leave you terribly confused? Yeah, me too and I'm a guy! We want experience, but just enough experience…not too much…not too little. It sounds like something out of a fairy tale. Men get these hopes and expectations from our parents. Boys are told to get "good girls," whatever that is. Clearly, it's not a girl that has slept around.

Men, on the other hand, are told to go out and be "studs". We are trained to bed as many women as we can and to tell lies to get them into bed. Fathers would brag about how many girls their sons had "bagged". One of the known benefits of being a good athlete was that you would get the girl. This is not fair; it's not right. But, it is a situation that we must accept and work to change. The joke is that both sexes expect the other to lie about the number of people they have been with.

If, he brings it up, then ask him to disclose first. That will put him on his heels and it should make him question the importance of the inquiry. If he insists, then tell him this: It seems that you are more interested in discussing my past that our future. I'm a grown woman and I have dated a number of people. Some relationships worked out, and others did not. The question that you should really be asking is whether I have any sexual history that you need to know about (current STD's).